What Over It is and what it actually does

What is Over It?

Over It is a self-help app for getting through a breakup. It gathers in one place an emotional chat that's open 24 hours a day, an anonymous community, guided breathing, daily challenges, an emotion tracker and a button for the moment you're about to text your ex. It's available on iOS only, in English and Spanish. The download is free and full use runs on a subscription.

Over It exists for a fairly specific stretch of time: the days, and especially the nights, right after a breakup, when nobody is awake to text and your head won't stop. Everything inside the app is built for that state. Short things, things you can do one-handed, at three in the morning, with no energy for anything.

It isn't a course or a programme you have to complete in order. You can open the app just to breathe for three minutes, just to read what someone else wrote last night, or just to hit the panic button when your ex's chat is already open and your thumb is on the keyboard.

What does the Over It app include?

Over It includes eight features: Ninety, a 24/7 emotional chat powered by artificial intelligence; an anonymous community; guided breathing in crisis, calm and sleep modes; daily challenges with a streak and a day counter; a panic button for the urge to text; an emotion tracker; short supportive writing; and articles by category. There are no calls, no sessions and no professionals answering on the other end.

The most specific of the eight is the panic button. It doesn't block anyone and it doesn't lecture you: it shows you the reasons you wrote down yourself, earlier, when you were calm and still remembered why you didn't want to reach out. The point is to put a few seconds between the urge and the message. If that's exactly your problem, not texting your ex covers it on its own page.

Who is Ninety, the Over It chat?

Ninety is the character you chat with inside Over It: a heart that answers around the clock using artificial intelligence. Ninety is not a real person, not a psychologist or therapist, and can be wrong or say something that doesn't fit your situation at all. It's a place to put what you're feeling into words at any hour, not a professional consultation.

What Ninety actually solves is the clock. At four in the morning you can't call anyone without feeling guilty, and texting your ex starts to look like a reasonable idea precisely because theirs is the one chat that's always there. Having somewhere else to write at that hour changes where the feeling goes.

Ninety isn't alone in there. The app has other characters that stand for parts of the process. Milo is the clear head, Patch is the relapses, Basti is the shield, Revi is the ex who still lives rent-free in your head, and Sparky is the spark coming back. They aren't decorative mascots: they're a way of naming things that are hard to say in the first person.

How much does Over It cost and how do you cancel?

Downloading Over It is free. Getting to the content and the features requires an auto-renewing subscription, with more than one plan depending on length. Pricing changes by country and over time, so the number that counts is the one the App Store shows you on the payment screen, before you confirm. The subscription is cancelled in your Apple Account settings, not inside the app.

No price you read in an article, this one included, is the price. Apple charges in the currency of the store your account belongs to, values differ by country, and subscriptions get updated over time. So you won't find a figure here. You'll find where to look at it: on the App Store listing and on the purchase confirmation screen, always before anything is charged.

The subscription auto-renews: it renews itself at the end of each period unless you cancel at least 24 hours beforehand. That isn't something particular to Over It, it's how every App Store subscription works.

1. 1

   Open Settings on your iPhone

   The system settings app, not the Over It app. Cancelling an App Store subscription is never done from inside the app itself.

2. 2

   Tap your name at the top

   The row with your photo and your Apple Account.

3. 3

   Go into Subscriptions

   That's where every active and expired subscription on that account is listed.

4. 4

   Pick Over It and tap Cancel Subscription

   You may have to scroll down a bit to find the button. If there's no cancel button at all, or you see an expiry date in red, the subscription is already cancelled.

What is Over It NOT?

Over It is not therapy, not a crisis service, not a dating app. It doesn't promise recovery timelines, doesn't block or monitor your ex's accounts, and has no health professionals answering messages. It isn't free end to end either: the download is, full use needs a subscription. Saying all of this out loud is part of using it well.

• Not therapy or treatment. Nobody diagnoses, nobody prescribes, nobody follows your case.
• Not a crisis service. There's no on-call team, no emergency intervention, nobody watching what you write in order to step in if you're in trouble.
• Not a dating or rebound app. It doesn't connect people to meet; the community is anonymous, with no profiles and no private messages between users.
• No timelines promised. There's no «get over it in 30 days». Any app that puts a date on it is selling you something.
• It does nothing to your ex's accounts. No blocking, no monitoring, no alerts. What it works on is your own urge to look, which is the only part within your reach.
• Not a substitute for your friends. It's a bridge for the hours they're not around, not a replacement for the hours they are.
• Not entirely free. Downloading it and creating an account cost nothing; the content and the features run on a subscription.

This list is here on purpose. An emotional health app that only lists what it can do is an app worth trusting less, because the limits are exactly the information you need in order to know when to go looking for something else.